Superstars Negotiate to Win – Do You? – Negotiation Lessons Learned From LeBron James’ Situation

For those that aren’t aware, LeBron James is a basketball player mega superstar. When superstars negotiate, they’re afforded a certain negotiation latitude. So, who can fault LeBron James for taking control of an advantage he had when negotiating? When you’re in a ‘power’ position, that’s the time to ‘push’ your agenda forward.

Most savvy negotiators know how and when to advance their negotiation position. Are you aware of the times in which you hold advantages in a negotiation, and how to utilize those advantages?

This article examines the negotiation pros and cons of what occurred when LeBron James negotiated for his freedom. In it are negotiation lessons from which you can increase your negotiation skills. By the way, don’t lynch the author for saying LeBron negotiated his freedom. By freedom, it is meant, the pursuit of his dreams.

Be Fearless:

  • When you’re fearful about negotiating, think about the outcome and weigh what you seek to achieve versus settling for what you have. If the odds are in your favor to stride forward, do so. Be courageous. After all, courage is nothing more than possessing the judgment to realize that something else is more important than fear. (LeBron tossed naysayer comments to the wind in seeking the path he felt best served the outcome he sought.)

Understand the ‘value proposition’ in the negotiation:

· Sometimes, money is not the deciding factor in a negotiation. Thus, if you’re focusing on dollars to solve a negotiation problem and the other negotiator is seeking another form of resolution, chances are the negotiation will not come to fruition. When you’re at an impasse, understand the root cause of that impasse and address that point of contention. (The management of the Cavs (LeBron’s former team), thought money would be the deciding factor that would keep LeBron in Cleveland, which turned out not to be a major factor in LeBron’s decision.)

Reframe a ‘point of contention’ to one that’s more favorable to your position:

· Cav’s management shifted the inference of the conversation, related to LeBron leaving Cleveland, to one of the pain that such action would cause the city. They didn’t highlight the fact that LeBron had fulfilled his contractual agreement, and thus was ‘free’ to explore other avenues. To do so would have weakened their position, as they played to the sympathy of the public.

Consequences: There will always be consequences to the actions you take. Weigh them and proceed accordingly.

· Michael Jordan, Charles Barkley and a host of former NBA (National Basketball Association) players, and non-superstars have derided LeBron’s decision to leave the Cavs. Nevertheless, LeBron, knowing the desire he had to play for a team that could win a championship has pushed all the negative rhetoric aside to follow his desires. (When you’re sure about the direction in which you’re going, go on! Since you’re the one that will have to endure the consequences, follow the path that suits your interest for the negotiation.)

Expand the scope of the negotiation:

When seeking leverage in a negotiation, consider expanding the negotiation to metaphorically include parties that will be affected by negative or positive actions, based on the outcome you seek. (i.e. The owners of the Cavs brought up the fact that Cleveland’s economy and its people would be negatively impacted, if LeBron left the team). They were attempting to make the situation affect a broader segment of people. In so doing, they wanted to increase the perceived level of pain that would be inflicted upon the people of the city.

When you negotiate, after weighing all the options of a potential outcome, if you’re prepared to incur the consequences and you wish to go forth, ‘go for it’. Do so with all the zest and zeal you can muster. Fret not about ‘what could have been’. You’re the person in charge of your destiny. If you fall short in the negotiation, just remember, sometimes, that’s the way the ball bounces… and everything will be right with the world.

The Negotiation Tips Are…

· Utilize your negotiation power when you’re powerful in a negotiation. To allow it to wane is to forgo an advantage. Even if you chose not to use it, let the other negotiator know that you realized you had an advantage and chose to forgo utilizing it. In so doing you still gain mental credit with him for having it.

· Consider ‘playing the victim’ when placed in a precarious negotiation position. The owners of the Cavs cried ‘wounded’ when LeBron was considering playing for another team. They lamented, “how could LeBron leave us after all we’ve done for him”. In a negotiation, sympathy can beget interest. Just be careful how you utilize it.

· When you negotiate, there will be times when you’ll have to lead with your head and other times when you’ll have to lead with your heart. Regardless to which you choose, do so confidently. It’s your life and not another soul can experience the sorrows and joys that you experience, except you.

Interpretation Perfected by Presentation – the Berlin Mendelssohn Trio in Palau Altea, Altea, Spain

One of the great, even reassuring, things about what the CD shops ignorantly label “Classical Music” is its freedom, its liberality, its democratic principles. Yes, it has its stars. Yes, it has its forms and conventions. But in “Classical Music” these aspects never dominate. The music is always the prime focus. Anyone can learn any piece, anyone can play it, and anyone is free to interpret the composer’s intentions – as long as those intentions are respected, of course. And all of this is done unencumbered by wires, microphones or amplification, since real sound and real experience are always the goal. Performance, therefore, becomes a form of communication, a presentation of the music, itself, plus often much more. Contrast that with some other genres where commerce and celebrity are the raisons d’être, where the music is merely a secondary, often irrelevant accompaniment. Never mind the quality of the lip-sync, feel the width of the show.

Critics of “Classical Music” often cite a lack of bravura on behalf of the performers. This, of course, is to misunderstand both the medium and the content, since the passion is always in the music and good performances should always highlight the music, not themselves. Not all performers perform well, of course, but then that is true of every staged activity, not least of other genres of music than “Classical”.

So when a performer is exceptional both in terms of interpretation and delivery, an occasional flaw or inaccuracy passes by unnoticed. So it was with the Berlin Mendelssohn Trio in Palau Altea, not that there were many flaws to pass by. They offered their audience seven pieces, including an encore, one of which did indeed happen to be “classical” and four of which were presented as a single item, not really because the composer necessarily intended it, but because it made musical sense. The commitment and energy that the group displayed was quite remarkable.

They opened with Beethoven’s Opus 11 trio. If Schubert always sings, then Beethoven usually dances, and this trio hopped and pranced with energy, always, of course, with Beethoven’s musical tension showing through.

Unique Engagement Presents for Her

Getting engaged is an extremely exciting phase in a woman’s life and there’s no better way to help her celebrate than finding the perfect engagement present for her. While an engagement gift is definitely not expected from anyone, if you are really close to the bride-to-be, then you shouldn’t feel out of line by giving her a little gift as a way to say congrats.

Many times the couple, or the couple’s family, may throw an engagement party to announce the engagement and to provide a comfortable place for the family and friends of the couple to meet for the first time or the get to know one another better.

If the couple is throwing an engagement party, then you may not want to just bring a gift for her. You can always give it to her in private at a later date and just bring a nice congrats card to the party or you can find a gift that both of them might enjoy!

Here are some great engagement present ideas for her that you can think about:

Make-up Consultation
If her big day is quickly approaching and you know that she is nervous about what type of make-up she should wear, then consider getting her a make-up consultation with a professional make-up artist. Many make-up consultations are paid by the hour and during the consultation she can talk to a professional about what type of look she is going for. Or she can bring pictures from magazines to ask the artist’s opinion. The consultation will likely include a make-over where the make-up artist can show her how to put on her make-up and advise her on colors, and the tools necessary to execute the look she is going for. This can be great if she is planning on doing her own make-up or she may even decide to hire the artist to do her make-up for the big day!

Be Her Gym Buddy
If you and her belong to the same gym and she is aiming to lose some weight for the wedding, then consider being her encouragement and helping her lose those last few pounds. It can be difficult to find time to make it to the gym with so much wedding planning and organizing to do, but if she knows that you are going to be and will be holding her accountable, then that small extra push can be just what she needs!

Offer Her Your Personal Services
Planning a wedding is stressful! Consider what type of things or services that you can provide for the bride-to-be. Are you great at creating centerpieces? Is she always complimenting you on your music tastes? Then consider offering your services to decorate the tables or create a fun playlist for the wedding. This can be a wonderful gift if she is a do-it-yourself type of person. Also, her bridesmaids may be extremely thankful for those extra pair of hands – especially on the day of the wedding. So consider your talents and write her up a creative little coupon for her engagement gift, this can certainly make her day!